The Parent Phrasebook

The exact words,
for the exact moment.

Twelve sentences most of us grew up saying — and what to say instead.

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Maya, a calm woman at home, looking into the camera

Maya is an AI character. The words come from a real parent's experience — years, mistakes and all.

You have said at least three of these this week

  • "You're the best!"
  • "Don't cry, it's not a big deal."
  • "You just have to try harder."

Every one of them is well meant. Every one of them lands differently than you think.

Why these 12

Most of what we say to our children we say on autopilot, in the words we heard ourselves. Some of those words carry a cost nobody intended.

This is not a list of things you did wrong. It is twelve gaps between what a sentence means and what a child takes from it, with the exact replacement for each one.

One of the twelve

You say

"You're the best!"

Your child hears

A title. Titles can be taken away.

Say this instead

"You kept going after it stopped being fun."

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